We were not created to do life alone.
When God created Adam, He saw that it was not good for a human to be alone so He created Eve. There are many reasons why we need people in our lives. We need people to support us, to be our companions, and for accountability. However, we must be cautious as to what kind of advice we are receiving and if the person it’s coming from has a relationship with God. This is why it is important to have several advisors who speak into our lives.
We are not to do life alone. We need people who will direct us and who will stand up for us when we are being criticized, harassed or abused. We also need people in our lives for company. Can you think of your first friend and how important he/she was to you? I remember my first friend. I was about 6. This was when I lived in Ukraine. His name was Dennis. We played together and kept each other company everyday. I know that I would have done anything to protect my friend from being hurt by others. Today, I am so blessed to have my husband as my friend and my person. I love to do life with him. Recently the two of us were blessed to go to Seattle and Alaska for 11 days. That trip helped us to value each other’s company and friendship all the more. We were able to reconnect and express the unity of one spirit, soul, and mind. I know that God arranged for that trip because our relationship needed to get stronger to face the life changing events for this year.
Why ask for advice?
This has been and is continuing to be one of the most life shifting years for our family. We have moved to a new church. It was a difficult change as we had been attending the previous church for over 20 years and were deeply involved. The decision to leave was not easy for us since much had been invested in it. We needed Godly and wise advisors who would pray for us and direct us. For me, the changes were scary because I am not a very decisive person. I didn’t want to be responsible for a life altering decision that would affect our family in a negative way. Of course I spent a lot of time fasting and in prayer to seek out God’s will for the decision but I was still not sure so I sought out advice from Godly people.
Where there is no guidance the people fall, But in abundance of counselors there is victory. Proverbs 11:14
Who do you go to for advise?
Since I started “living for Christ”, I became drawn to people who have the same interests and passion to live and grow as I did. God introduced me to several amazing followers who had been living their lives to please God and they became the people who I reached out to for support. When I was not sure about something, I would contact them. One thing that I value is their direct response, even though I may not agree with the advise they give me every time. Sometime we don’t want to hear the truth and can dismiss wisdom and knowledge from others. I reach out to my husband for advice a lot. However, with the church situation, since we were both seeking God’s will, I contacted a few of my mentors. They all gave me the same answer but I was still not convinced so I continued to pray. God showed me a Bible verse where it said that it was my husband’s responsibility to lead our family spiritually. Wives, follow the LEAD of your husbands as you follow the Lord. Ephesians 5:22. I asked Sergey if he would be ready to give an account before God for this decision. His answer was empathic and I saw God in that. I was blessed and relieved at the same time in this situation because God relieved me from the accountability to God.
How blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked. Psalm 1:1
What we need to watch out for
Like with anything, too much of a good thing is not good. Having too many advisors speaking into our lives is not beneficial for us.
A man of too many friends comes to ruin, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. Proverbs 18:24.
Since we are in the flesh, we can mess up. Things like jealousy, comparison and being a stumbling block like Peter was for Jesus are things that we ought to keep on the look out for. People may not always have our best interest. They may be too close to us and give wrong advice because they love us too much and don’t want us to get hurt. My mom has been one of my mentors. She is a Godly woman with a lot of experience. However, I am cautious about the things she advises me because of the close relationship. She may be speaking out of fleshly concerns and not what God would want for my life. In general, we all are loyal people, but sometimes we can stumble. One minute we are wise and can give Godly advice, but because we are people, we can be ready to throw punches for the account of our friend like Peter wanted to on behalf of Jesus. Jesus told Peter that he was a stumbling block for Him. said - "get behind me satan, you only think about fleshly things".
Keep in mind that if you don’t have those mentors in your life right now, God can speak through anyone at anytime as God spoke through a donkey. We have been praying about selling our home and our daughter was not on board. I prayed and said, “if this is your will for us God, then Kristin will change her mind”. Sure enough, a week later she agreed to our changes and is now excited about moving. I challenge you if you don’t have any yet, find several mentors who can speak into your life. You don’t necessarily have to tell them that they are your mentors, although it would help you stay accountable. Make a habit to contact them.
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