For the past year, I have been going through a process of clearing out clutter from my home because I felt overwhelmed to the point where I could not breathe. I replaced my bulky bedroom set with a simple bed and two small nightstands. I don’t miss my drawers because I didn’t really have anything useful in them anyways. I got rid of my living room set with the intention of replacing it with only a few smaller pieces. However, when I cleared it out, I loved only having the piano there and nothing else. In the past, have gone through clothes regularly. Last month, I wanted to take my de-cluttering process to a whole other level. I got rid of clothes that I could have probably still held on to. I got rid of 50 pieces. I don’t miss those pieces and I feel like the clothes that I still have multiplied. It may be because a lot of the pieces I kept, I actually wear. Currently, took the challenge even further. I switched all my hangers backwards, and for 6 months, if I have not worn those things (that remain on the hangers backwards), they too will be gone.
I know that you want to do the will of God and to fulfill your purpose on earth to your fullest potential. This is what God wants for you also and that is why such a high price was paid for you by Jesus, so that you would be equipped to do that. Last week I shared what season I was in. Even though it has been difficult to move forward without having all the answers, I am thankful that God has provided me with people who help me push through those uncertainties.
If you are looking for an excuse or a way out of a relationship, please don’t use this blog post as a way of justifying yourself. Always ask God to help you see the things that YOU need to change before blaming someone else, just to make yourself appear and feel good. This may be problem with self-confidence, which I am way too familiar with. I would find faults in others just to feel better about myself. The issue is much deeper within. You may even have been through some sort of abuse but don’t even realize it. Ask God to reveal your past and to heal those soul wounds that have been producing this messed up character in you. I continue to work on myself as God heals every single part of me one layer at a time. Just when I think I am fully healed, God yet pulls another layer off of me. After all, he will never give you more than you can handle at a time.
It’s time to do inventory on your relationships
If we want radical changes in our lives, we must first allow God to do heart surgery on us and only then will we be able to replace the people who are causing us more harm then good. Have you ever had a conversation with someone who dissected and devoured every single word that you spoke? It seemed as though nothing that you said was good enough. They always have to have the last word. They don’t allow themselves to be corrected but find ways to correct and rebuke others. We ought to separate ourselves from those types of people. They never have anything positive to say. They only bring us down.
Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character." 1 Corinthians 15:33
Why should I limit?
We may be going through a difficult season and even on the verge of giving up. It could be related to health, finances, depression, doubt, fear, regret, misunderstanding, addiction, ect. The last thing we would need is someone to dig us into a bigger pit. I get that other people have issues and ALSO need help and God CAN use us to help them (just like God did with Job at the end of his suffering), however, I think that we ought to get better first and surround ourselves with those who will help us move forward before we can help anyone else. If we don’t, we may end up in “the blind leading the blind” scenario and would both be in trouble.
Who should I limit myself from?
Especially when we are going through a difficult time but also in general, we should limit ourselves from people who bring us doubt, discouragement and negativity. Choose whom to share what God is doing in you and through you. Matthew reminds us about wolves in sheepskin. They are people “who rejoice in doing evil and delight in the perverseness of evil”. Proverbs 2:14
Matthew 7:6 Do not give dogs what is sacred; turn and tear YOU to pieces. These are God haters. We need to be aware of them separate ourselves from them. Listen to the advice that they are giving you, does it align with Gods word?
Do they fit the criteria?
It is better to be surround with people who know more than we know. The disciples did this. Jesus was the walking Bible. The disciples learned very closely from Jesus. They were always listening to his instructions and teachings. We must be so careful. Eleven of the disciples were true and honest and of course not perfect but we read about all the good they did for others. We also see how among the good, Judas was evil and betrayed Jesus. Jesus warns us about Pharisees and Sadducees. He says that we can listen to what they teach but don’t follow their examples in life. Perhaps a person may seem godly and knows a lot “about” Jesus but doesn’t really know Him or portrays Him (like Judas).
More on inventory
Just as the pieces of clothing that I could have held on to but chose to get rid of. There are people in our lives that are just there but don’t provide any comfort. Instead, they may even cause us to stumble. When Job was going through turmoil, his friends sat with him but they were not successful in comforting him. Not only that, but they said things about God that was distorted and caused God to be angry with them. I find it interesting that even in the midst all “hell”, Job expressed truthful things about God. Even more so, that God had Job pray for his friends. Only after that, God had restored all things in Job’s life.
If we want radical changes in our lives, we must first allow God to do heart surgery on us and only then will we be discern and get rid of the people who are not good for us.
I pray that the Holy Spirit reveals to the eyes of your heart, so that you will able to discern the wolves among you. So that you will be able to discern your true friends from fake ones. The advice that they are giving you, does it align with Gods word?